Austin Bordeaux
United States
North Carolina
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It is no secret to anyone on this forum that there is a large age variance among users of BGG from young adults to retirees. It is definitely the most varied group of online folks that I am proud to be a part of.
I am a 22 year old guy with, what is hopefully, a long, full life ahead of me. I was just hoping to get any advice I could from all the people here. From those my age, those just starting families, those with well established families, those that decided not to start families, those that are grandparents, those that landed their dream job and love it or found out it wasn't quite a dream, those that are working whatever they could find cause they need to live or it was all they could find or it was just easy, those in the military, those in all fields and occupations, those that have hobbies of all kinds.
Essentially everyone and anyone.
I don't care what the advice is about I just want to hear it. Tell me advice about big things like life, love, purpose, or how to stay motivated. Tell me advice about middle ground things like family, relationships, money, work, hobbies, and so on and so forth. Tell me advice about small, specific things like how to most efficiently spend my last 50$ in Vegas or the best side dish to go with Country Fried Steak. Tell me advice about games.
My only stipulation is that the advice be about things that could legitimately happen. So by all means tell me advice on how to escape from a serial killer if I get kidnapped or how to best use my lottery winnings despite how low a chance they may happen, but the advice on how to overthrow an alien empire after being abducted or how to survive a zombie apocalypse can be saved for another thread (besides I already have books about those things).
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Morgan Dontanville
United States
Brooklyn
New York
Plate of Shrimp.
Here we are folks, the dream we all dream of.
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Always wear a condom. Stay away from white drugs. Make sure your partner knows how you feel about your relationship before you have sex with them. Don't sit on the toilet too long. You have more energy now than you ever will. Being young gives you a license to be stupid and naive, take advantage of that to its fullest. Meeting your one true love is awesome, but don't forget to sow your oats until then, you will only appreciate them more. Get someone you trust and think is financially successful to write your resume and then update their formatting every year. Don't be committed to any one career path, be flexible and open to opportunity. Chances are your experiences will converge down the road, or will reveal themselves as experiences that you don't want to relive. Don't wait to see or do stuff you are interested in doing, chances are you will only have a small window to experience a thing (even if it has been around for years). Never loan anyone anything, give them the thing and if they give it back it is even better; if you feel you can't part with it, then you shouldn't let it go, this is especially true with money.
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United States
Missoula
Montana
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Sleep on a consistent schedule if at all possible.
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Michael Lavender
Australia
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I can tell you some advice i recieved once from a hard man after i had a relationship break up. It's advice that's applicable to many instances in life though, so here goes:
"There's two things in life. Life's unfair. And. Get on with it!"
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Pony Casts Fire
United States
New Haven
Connecticut
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Wear sunscreen.
Don't spend money you don't have on stuff you don't need. Don't spend money you do have on stuff you don't need.
A new car is worth it, just so you don't have to worry about it breaking down in the middle of nowhere.
Don't worry about what other people think of you. Or at least only care about the opinions of those you respect, and who care about you.
Learn how to accept negative criticism. When someone you respect tells you you have a problem, don't dismiss it out of hand.
Introspection. Do it.
Go places. Drive across the country. Visit Europe.
Eat some guacamole. I was denied this experience until I was 25, and it still makes me angry.
Most people that hurt you aren't doing it on purpose.
Make connections in your career, it's sometimes the only way to get a job. Qualifications are great, but nothing works like connections.
Try not to feel too bad if you fail at something, learn from it and move on.
Sometimes, it's okay to be mundane, most people are.
Be nice to people that work retail, far too many people treat them like crap.
Thank people.
As for specifics. If you win the lottery, invest most of it, don't go on a spending spree. If you're kidnapped and in a trunk, most of them have auto releases, so you can probably escape that way. And the best side dish for country fried steak is mashed potatos and gravy.
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The neutral evil villain known as
United States
Brownsburg
Indiana
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When you turn 45, you will still, in your head, feel like you at 22. You don't magically become an adult. You may have to act like one, but inside, you really don't age. I am still waiting to "grow up"... but it's a lot easier to pretend to be an adult with the receding hairline.
Oh and shut your crawlspace vents in the winter. It keeps the cold air out and the pipes from freezing. Open them in the spring to dry out the dampness under the house.
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Not Just Wrong- SPECTACULARLY WRONG.
Spain
Texas
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'Kurt Vonnegut's' (not really, its a column by Mary Schmich) MIT Commencement Speech.
"Ladies and gentlemen of the class of '97:
Wear sunscreen.
If I could offer you only one tip for the future, sunscreen would be it. The long-term benefits of sunscreen have been proved by scientists, whereas the rest of my advice has no basis more reliable than my own meandering experience. I will dispense this advice now.
Enjoy the power and beauty of your youth. Oh, never mind. You will not understand the power and beauty of your youth until they've faded. But trust me, in 20 years, you'll look back at photos of yourself and recall in a way you can't grasp now how much possibility lay before you and how fabulous you really looked. You are not as fat as you imagine.
Don't worry about the future. Or worry, but know that worrying is as effective as trying to solve an algebra equation by chewing bubble gum. The real troubles in your life are apt to be things that never crossed your worried mind, the kind that blindside you at 4 pm on some idle Tuesday.
Do one thing every day that scares you.
Sing.
Don't be reckless with other people's hearts. Don't put up with people who are reckless with yours.
Floss.
Don't waste your time on jealousy. Sometimes you're ahead, sometimes you're behind. The race is long and, in the end, it's only with yourself.
Remember compliments you receive. Forget the insults. If you succeed in doing this, tell me how.
Keep your old love letters. Throw away your old bank statements.
Stretch.
Don't feel guilty if you don't know what you want to do with your life. The most interesting people I know didn't know at 22 what they wanted to do with their lives. Some of the most interesting 40-year-olds I know still don't.
Get plenty of calcium. Be kind to your knees. You'll miss them when they're gone.
Maybe you'll marry, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll have children, maybe you won't. Maybe you'll divorce at 40, maybe you'll dance the funky chicken on your 75th wedding anniversary. Whatever you do, don't congratulate yourself too much, or berate yourself either. Your choices are half chance. So are everybody else's.
Enjoy your body. Use it every way you can. Don't be afraid of it or of what other people think of it. It's the greatest instrument you'll ever own.
Dance, even if you have nowhere to do it but your living room.
Read the directions, even if you don't follow them.
Do not read beauty magazines. They will only make you feel ugly.
Get to know your parents. You never know when they'll be gone for good. Be nice to your siblings. They're your best link to your past and the people most likely to stick with you in the future.
Understand that friends come and go, but with a precious few you should hold on. Work hard to bridge the gaps in geography and lifestyle, because the older you get, the more you need the people who knew you when you were young.
Live in New York City once, but leave before it makes you hard. Live in Northern California once, but leave before it makes you soft. Travel.
Accept certain inalienable truths: Prices will rise. Politicians will philander. You, too, will get old. And when you do, you'll fantasize that when you were young, prices were reasonable, politicians were noble, and children respected their elders.
Respect your elders.
Don't expect anyone else to support you. Maybe you have a trust fund. Maybe you'll have a wealthy spouse. But you never know when either one might run out.
Don't mess too much with your hair or by the time you're 40 it will look 85.
Be careful whose advice you buy, but be patient with those who supply it. Advice is a form of nostalgia. Dispensing it is a way of fishing the past from the disposal, wiping it off, painting over the ugly parts and recycling it for more than it's worth.
But trust me on the sunscreen.
Author: Mary Schmich (USA)
First published: July 1, 1997
Copyright: Herald Tribune
http://www.wesselenyi.com/speech.htm
Darilian
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Michael
United States
Nebraska
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Don't buy stuff you can't afford.
Be stupid once and a while on purpose, and only then.
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Cpl. Fields
South Africa
Hopelessly Surrounded
Isandlwana, Zululand
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sisteray wrote: Always wear a condom.
That could get really uncomfortable after a while.
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Ari
United States
San Francisco
California
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1. Gain as much self awareness as possible.
2. Question Everything. Never stop learning.
3. The Cake is a Lie! ...and so is (rsp censored)
4. Take care of your toofesses... it thucks being toofless.
5. What is best in life? To crush your enemies, see them driven before you, and to hear the lamentation of their women.
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W M Shubert
United States
Portland
Oregon
KGS is the #1 web site for playing go over the internet. Visit now!
Yes, I really am that awesome.
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The love of a good woman is a great thing to have. If you think you'll enjoy having kids, then HAVE THEM.
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kelsith
United States
Illinois
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A good pair of comfy shoes is worth the expense in the long run.
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Conrad
United States
New York City
New York
Who is bought and sold? Who is beyond the law? Who is free to choose? Who follows orders? Who salutes longest? Who prays loudest? Who dies first? Who laughs last? -Barbara Kruger
"Now a question of etiquette: as I pass, do I give you the ass or the crotch?"
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Read a lot. It doesn't even really matter that much what.
You are never more motivated than you already are at 22. Assume that whatever direction you're moving in right now is the right one (even if it may not be), and just forge ahead as quickly as you can, because it becomes more difficult to make up ground as you get older. Even if you're not doing what you'll want to for the next fifty years, a successful person in one field can easily become a successful person in many others.
Don't forget to grow out of irony.
When you're talking to someone else, ask yourself what they are getting out of the conversation, and if the answer is nothing, then some self-examination and adjustment is in order.
Travelling to distant places where no one speaks your language is one of the easiest ways to do things you'll never forget.
Don't pick someone with incompatible goals or ethics as a partner.
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Robert Wesley
Nepal
Aberdeen
Washington
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 Don't 'sweat' the "small stuff", because, let's just face "it"; WE'LL NEVER MAKE IT OUT ALIVE! 
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Pieter
Netherlands
Maastricht
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Trust people. However, if someone betrays that trust, stop trusting them then and there. People do not change fundamentally. They will betray you again.
Stop watching TV. Now. It is wasting so much of your valuable time. You only realize how much more you can do in life once you have stopped watching TV.
Value your social life. You will get into periods in your life that are so stressful that you may ignore your social contacts, especially if you are male. But once they are gone, it will be very hard, if not impossible, to get them back. Most of your social contacts are gained in your twenties. Stay in touch with these people.
Family trumps friends. Friends trump relatives. Relatives trump work. Make sure you get your priorities right.
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I am the Tick and you are Barry
United States
Arthur's apartment
The City
SPOOOOON!!!
San Diego bound!
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Only buy what you can afford.
Learn to develop relationships.
Learn to work hard.
Treat others as you would like to be treated.
Don't beat yourself up. You wouldn't be friends with someone else it they treated you this way.
Learn to be ever thankful.
Learn not to need the approval of anyone.
Stick up for yourself and those you care about.
Overcome your fears. Do things that scare you.
Learn to love unconditionally.
Integrity is important.
Don't lie to other or yourself.
Learn to forgive and forget. Again this applies to others and yourself.
Give hugs and smiles. You will never understand the power they have to lift others.
Travel the world.
Don't listen when the entertainment industry tells you how to live.
Be nice. You win more flies with honey than vinegar.
Realize that you aren't perfect and never will be. Don't expect others to be perfect.
Resist the temptation to do things that are wrong.
Don't be friends with people of poor character. They will rub off on you.
Look for your purpose in life.
Learn to laugh often.
Regularly take a step back and evaluate your path.
Spend time thinking.
When ever you come to a critical decision always sleep on it. You don't have to decide right away.
Help people who cannot repay you.
When you fall, and you will fall, dust yourself off and get back up.
When going through hell it is best to keep on going.
Do difficult things.
Sheesh, I could do this all day long.
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Geekway to the West was Vastly Entertaining.
United States
University City
MO
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Smile. You can change someone's day with a smile.
If someone is grumpy, they might just have gas.
Turn your outside water off in the winter. Burst pipes are a nightmare.
Walk tall.
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Billy the Hut
United States
Boston
Massachusetts
Sit beside the breakfast table Think about your troubles Pour yourself a cup of tea Then think about the bubbles
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Here's some advice I gave my son back when he was in high school:
If there's a girl you like, corner her, then give her a long soliloquy on what you like about Star Wars & Star Trek and why. If she doesn't run, you've got a chance.
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Lance
United States
Moorhead
Minnesota
The coolest best thing I have ever done in my life is being a father
Caleb, the best 6 month old little brother ever
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Seriously - and I really mean this - throw out every single piece of advice you have read and just...
Be yourself.
Go out and do what you want, as long as you don't hurt anyone, and just enjoy your life. You only get on trip on this ride, don't waste it by trying to do anything you don't really want to do.
Admittedly - you need to work, and deal with the other miscreants you have been forced to see every day while you co-habitate this planet - but for gosh sakes, you probably are going to have a good 12-16 hours a day that are yours to do with as you please. Fill them with things that make you happy.
When you are 90 and surrounded by your grand children and breathing your last, regrets are going to suck to have,
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Billy the Hut
United States
Boston
Massachusetts
Sit beside the breakfast table Think about your troubles Pour yourself a cup of tea Then think about the bubbles
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UndeadViking wrote: Be yourself.
Isn't that the advice I just posted?
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Pony Casts Fire
United States
New Haven
Connecticut
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Don't listen to Lance, get some guacamole. I don't care if it looks gross.
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stephen
United Kingdom
Burton on trent
Staffordshire
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Someone once told me "the most important thing in the world is having people to do stuff with"
If someone you love or are close to is ill, no-one will tell you they are going to die, you might think they would, a doctor,a nurse, somebody, but they dont, you have to ask. And it is good to know that someone you love is going to die even though it hurts at the time, you get to say a proper farewell.
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JessA
United States
Southwestern
Michigan
Fox by Miss Turtle Artist, now the Mockingjay and furthermore, I think tipping in GeekQuestions should be fixed.
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Here is a list of advice that F. Scott Fitzgerald wrote to his daughter that I feel is mostly worthwhile.
Things to worry about:
Worry about courage
Worry about cleanliness
Worry about efficiency
Worry about horsemanship
Things not to worry about:
Don’t worry about popular opinion
Don’t worry about dolls
Don’t worry about the past
Don’t worry about the future
Don’t worry about growing up
Don’t worry about anybody getting ahead of you
Don’t worry about triumph
Don’t worry about failure unless it comes through your own fault
Don’t worry about mosquitoes
Don’t worry about flies
Don’t worry about insects in general
Don’t worry about parents
Don’t worry about boys
Don’t worry about disappointments
Don’t worry about pleasures
Don’t worry about satisfactions
Things to think about:
What am I really aiming at?
How good am I really in comparison to my contemporaries in regard to:
(a) Scholarship
(b) Do I really understand about people and am I able to get along with them?
(c) Am I trying to make my body a useful instrument or am I neglecting it?
With dearest love,
Daddy
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Paul DeStefano
United States
Long Island
New York
It's a Zendrum. www.zendrum.com
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Learn to cook, and well. And use Cast Iron. Its worth it.
Always engage in some form of artistic expression.
Forgive.
Fail. Its the only way to learn your limits.
Be comfortable with mortality.
Realize sometimes everyone else is wrong. Realize sometimes everyone else is right. Just because they are everyone else, do not form an opinion.
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