A Wedding Proposal - with a little help from CGE
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I proposed to my beautiful girlfriend of almost 3 years on the weekend. She's relatively active on the site and may be known to some of you.

Merran Furness
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I wanted to make it both memorable and special so started planning almost 9 months ago. This geeklist provides an overview of the planning and this weekends events, with some insights from Merran.

For Friends \ Family \ Others redirected from Facebook This website is THE resource for everything about boardgames. If you're intrigued by the game I used in the proposal, have a look around. Board games have so much more to offer than you may realise. Carcassonne, Ticket to Ride and Settlers of Catan are examples of games that people new to the hobby may enjoy.
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1. Board Game: Through the Ages: A Story of Civilization [Average Rating:8.03 Overall Rank:26]
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Background

Merran and I started going out in October 2010. At the time, Merran enjoyed playing games but her exposure had been predominantly mainstream titles. She took to gaming very quickly and it wasn't long before she was enjoying deeper games like Through the Ages with me and loving every minute of it.

One of the things that Merran loves about our hobby is that, as a girl, she doesn't feel like she is penalised for being smart.

Our love of boardgames is one of our passions. We play together (2 player) and with friends as often as we can manage. We've recently (last November) bought a new house together and a key criteria was a large games room. We are now the proud owners of a 6m x 6m boardgame room.

Our Wall of games - December 2012 - Merran intends to produce a geeklist on evolution of games room once finished.

As such, I thought any proposal needed to have some connection to gaming.
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2. Board Game: War of the Ring (Second Edition) [Average Rating:8.39 Overall Rank:12]
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Planning the Proposal: The Ring and Blessings
The quandary - how to get a ring she'd love without tipping her off about an upcoming proposal. She'd dropped plenty of hints about the potential for marriage in our future so on one occasion I noted that I didn't even know her taste in jewellery. This resulted in some web searches and visits with Romana (her daughter) to local stores. She showed me a number of these, which made me more confident that I could find something nice. I actually went back to one of the stores a few weeks later and picked up one that she liked.
Milestone: Ring bought - Oct 12

The Ring - Modelled post proposal by Merran (You didn't think she said no did you?)


While I'm not driven by tradition, I like the custom of receiving the blessing of the girls father. Merran has two teenage children from a past marriage and I felt that it would also be nice to get their blessings prior to the proposal.

Merran's parents were in town (from Adelaide) over the Canberra Day Long weekend for the Hall Dog trials. I was able to take advantage of a quiet moment to ask Don for his blessing, which he gave happily. I'd been quiet nervous about how to phrase the question, but Don was great. He made the conversation easy, noting that he thought we were a good fit and would be very happy together.
Milestone: Father's Blessing - Mar 13

Romana and Aidan were (are) awesome. Both happily gave their blessings and seemed quite excited by the prospect.
Milestone: Kid's Blessings - Apr 13

All were sworn to secrecy. While they knew I'd probably ask during a weekend away in the future, none knew how I planned to pop the question. Planning around how I'd ask was already well underway.
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3. Board Game Publisher: Czech Games Edition
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Planning the Proposal: Asking the Question

CGE has published some of my favourite games and boast some of our favourite designers. Dungeon Lords, Last Will, Through the Ages, Tzolk'in are just a few of the gems we are fortunate to own and our collection of CGE games continues to grow. Hence, when I started thinking of how I could incorporate gaming into a proposal, CGE games were some of the first I considered.

Of the CGE stable of games, Last Will seemed to be the best to build a proposal around. Merran has a great sense of humour (my nickname for her is Smiley) so I was sure she wouldn't mind the implication that a proposal would be a great way to lose money over time.. So, I sent a letter to CGE asking if they'd be interested in helping me propose to my girlfriend. I provided an overview of who we were and my thoughts on how we could incorporate my proposal into a game of last will.

If this experience has proven one thing for me it is that CGE are AWESOME! Filip Murmak in particular has been magnificant. He responded soon after I sent my letter and has worked with me ever since to ensure that my proposal was everything I hoped.

Filip worked with me to fine tune ideas and organised everything on his end, including discussing card options with Vladimir, organising Art consistent with the game (including our likenesses) and printing the cards. Cards were produced and arrived about 3 weeks before our weekend away. I was excited by this stage and looking forward to the weekend.

(Pictures of the cards below)

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4. Board Game: Hotel Life [Average Rating:7.34 Overall Rank:4303]
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Planning the Proposal: The Venue

I wanted the proposal to be in a romantic location, without making it too obvious what was coming. We'd discussed getting away for a weekend away as life had been hectic, so I volunteered to organise the getaway, noting that she'd find out where we were going on the day. She liked the idea so that was a positive.

In addition, lots of friends and work colleagues (we work together) were asking when I'd be proposing and when they discovered we were going away for a weekend many asked / assumed a proposal was coming.. I tried to counter this as best I could, noting:
I didn't even know her ring size; and wouldn't I need to have a ring for a proposal? A friend didn't propose to his girlfriend for 11 years setting precedence so I had plenty of time and in the main assuring everyone we were just taking the opportunity for some down time. We had a laugh about everyone else's expectations and agreed that our focus was just to have some 'us time'. On the basis of misdirection and long lead time expectation management, I don't think she was expecting anything.

I was lucky enough to find Sangoma Retreat via a internet search. If anyone is looking for a luxury getaway in the Blue Mountains (edge of Sydney), I can't recommend this highly enough. Our hosts, Michael and Zenga have 5 suites, hosting a maximum of 10 guests each weekend and they provide a magnificent experience. Awesome food, great views and wonderous, private facilities. Here are a few pictures to give you a taste.

Our hosts


The Stone Suite






Views from Bed and the Balcony


Surrounding Bushland


Some of the Art on Site


Views of other Suites


Check out their website if you'd like further information www.sangomaretreat.com.au
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5. Board Game: Last Will [Average Rating:7.24 Overall Rank:324] [Average Rating:7.24 Unranked]
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The Proposal
So the big day had come.

The location was everything I'd hoped for and it was a beautiful day. The question was what was the best time, and how could I get some photos without making her too suspicious. I have a nice camera and have done a course or two previously, so I used the excuse that I wanted to spend some of the weekend re-familiarising myself with my camera, including some photos of us gaming. I'll let some photos tell the story...

The Setup
Merran had just received Ascension, so I used it as a test run for the camera / tripod setup.


Getting Started


Good Times


Stories
About this stage of the game, I decided Merran should be describing the boat trips, dinners and other events that were occuring during the game to allow her to spend money. This was partly because I think trash / theme based discussions make all games better and because I wanted to be able to tell a story as I played the proposal cards without overt suspicion.


Losing it / Lost it..
Stories made for some good times but the camera was providing it's own drama. The camera would only maintain the remote shot feature for 30s - 1 min so I had to keep taking photos so it wouldn't turn off. Inevitably, as I thought of my moves, I'd forget and the timer would expire. Merran thought this hilarious (proof of AP) - I was less amused as I needed her to stop laughing and pay attention (while I was taking photos) so I could propose.


Preparing the Reveal


The Reveal


The Reaction
Phew... That's the reaction I was hoping to receive.


Questions
Merran is naturally inquisitive so as soon as the YES! was done we quickly moved on to: How did you do this! Are these photoshopped!

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6. Board Game: Last Will [Average Rating:7.24 Overall Rank:324] [Average Rating:7.24 Unranked]
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I spent some time the next day taking a few pictures of the cards that supported my proposal

The Cards


Merran with Game and Cards


Game and Cards


Arty shots of Game and Cards




Huge thankyous for helping make such a special memory to:

Filip Murmak
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