How to Attract a Male to your Gaming Group
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I have noticed a lot of confusion in the General Gaming forum about what makes male gamers tick. What is it that the strange and elusive male wants in a game? There seems to be a lot of misinformation and miscommunication about this issue in the community, so I thought that I would outline once and for all, from a man's perspective, how to attract and keep men in your gaming circle, be they spouse or comrade.
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1. Board Game: Tic-Tac-Toe [Average Rating:2.61 Overall Rank:15592]
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It's important to remember that Men want to be out there killing and smashing things, so learning a complicated set of rules is RIGHT OUT.

Instead, try to stick to shorter rulesets that do not cause distraction from thoughts of hunting. Less than 16 pages is required, less than 1 page ideal!
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2. Board Game: War at Sea (second edition) [Average Rating:6.46 Overall Rank:2517] [Average Rating:6.46 Unranked]
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The next thing to realize is that males are very territorial and aggressive. Finding games that focus on confrontation and violence - such as many simulations of wars - will go great lengths to keep his attention. These cater well to his biological role as hunter and protector.

Pay attention to rule #1, though! Avalon Hill was famous as a company that people bought their games because of the violent and warlike imagery on their boxes, but never actually played due to the rules complexity! Can you imagine? An entire company, who nobody ever played any game of EVER, just because of rules complexity? Avoid this fate if you want to see a man at the games actually on your table!
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As an alternative to a constant diet of wargames, many men attempt to find outlet for their confrontational instincts in sporting events - where teams of other men engage in a heated struggle against another team to eventually best them in competition! Heroic!

There are several boardgames that take that theme at heart, and can be a great trick to lure men into your gaming group.
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Also important to remember is that a male in your group will want to dominate...but dominate other men! While women are certainly more commonly boardgamers than men are, defeating a woman in a titanic struggle doesn't do much to stoke the testosterone-fueled rage of your typical male.

Instead, you should keep other, less important males around. Look for those with thick glasses, "pocket protectors" (a device for storing pens in a shirt pocket), obviously toting around calculators, or self-proclaimed 'historians' or 'computer nerds'. Stocking a few of these "men, but of lesser importance" in your game group can be a great way to keep the desirable males involved, as it gives them an easy target to dominate that has the all-important same gender.

The validation they will feel from an endless stream of victories against them will keep them coming back to your group time and again!
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...however, while keeping the previous point in mind, BEWARE!

Many of those lesser desirable men have turned their attentions inward, and the level of introspection they demonstrate can increase their skills at thinking in boardgames. Some, almost to the point of being competitive with women! (Almost!) However, this would be a tremendous threat to bringing new Males to your group. After all - if they ever lose, especially to a lesser desirable male, THEY WILL NEVER RETURN!

To that end, it's wise to include a larger number of games that involve physical activity. Dexterity and strength are tests the Males you want to bring to your group will excel at!
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In befitting his traditional role of solitary hunter, the Men you want to bring to your group will likely be unwilling to chat openly. Indeed, they will almost always rebuff any attempt at communication, instead relying on jabs, grunts, and growls (with furrowed eyebrows!) if attempting to interact with them.

Best to choose games that have a minimum of verbal interaction, and especially those that focus on basic, primal concepts such as elementary colors and shapes.
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Another way to bring Males into a game is to involve fire! Or, the next best thing - LASERS! This touches several nerves for your Man simultenously:

Working with something that can be incredibly destructive

Bright shiny objects!
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Given their relative low level of evolution, many of the Men you may want to attract to your group may find complex concepts or 'rules' very difficult to follow at all.

In such cases, it may be best to fall back to a form of communication and representing information a Man is most familiar with...cave paintings!

Since the days of Cave Men, however, there have been some advancements in the art of cave painting, and nowadays using pencil (or pen) and paper sheets is the recommended method of communicating with this primitive art form. Do not be afraid of utilizing these features! While all forms of change or new ideas are profoundly frightening to Men, he should be able to adapt to the new ideas if introduced gradually enough! Once your Man understands the similarity between pencil and paper to the rocks and caves walls he is used to, he will welcome this new "boardgaming" experience!
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THIS is an example of something you should NEVER bring out!

Not because of the rules length (although it violates item #1 on this list)

Not because it lacks a 'war' or 'sports' theme (violating items #2 and #3 on the list)

Not because of the "co-operative" nature (although it violates item #4 on this list)

No, far, FAR worse.

It's an expansion. Males are terribly, terribly frightened by new ideas. New ideas are always bad! Things like...lighting that might hit them while hunting! Or a new berry...so tasty looking!...but makes them sick! A new animal...is he friendly? ...can we eat him? NO - HE IS ATTACKING US!!

New ideas should NEVER be introduced. Once your Male is accustomed to a specific 'boardgame' (keeping in mind other list items to help you choose it), you MUST RESIST the urge to introduce any expansion to it! These items will simply frighten and alarm him!
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This is another example of a game that should be avoided. While it SEEMS like a safe bet - it involves, after all, the most basic of primary colors, and elementary shapes - it is NOT!

Instead, it represents another risk you must watch out for. Small plastic pieces...especially those that fit together!

As is well known, all Men are incredibly, incredibly hairy. These plastic pieces can easily become entangled in their matted underarm or back hair! Especially when the pieces become stuck together, pinching a lock of hair between them! Your Male will howl with the animal rage entirely justified by this discomfort!
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Ummm...well....yeah. When all else fails, there is always this option...
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They say that the only way to a man's heart is through his stomach.

This is not at all true - see previous entry.

It's not a bad start, though, so could also be a valid angle of attack to lure in those non-gaming Males!
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Invite Larissa Riquelme for play the game too

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Laugh hysterically anytime someone rips one while gaming and you have male bonding at it's best!
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