In 2009, my life experienced a massive upheaval. I had ulcers from one end of my digestive system to the other. I hated my job, which was complicated by the fact that I was damned good at it and it paid well. The stress sent me out on medical leave, which the company had to grant me by law; I was only back to work one day when they laid me off. While I was looking for new work, my then-wife told me she didn’t want to be married any more. She told me this during the commercials as we were watching TV. It wasn’t even worth turning off the TV to discuss. I had taken my marriage vows seriously and never would have left her, but once she opened that door, I took it. When she told me I had to be out in two weeks, I was gone in four days.
With no job and no money, I sold off almost everything I owned, crammed what I thought was important to me into my compact car. I drove 500 miles from where I was living in Tucson, Arizona to surf friends’ couches in Albuquerque, New Mexico. I reconnected with old friends, and through them I met Katie. We were friends for a year, then dated for two weeks before we decided to get married. We eloped, to the chagrin of family and friends, because we didn’t think they’d get it. They didn’t. but we did, and that’s all that mattered.
Katie is my partner in every sense. We have the same circle of friends, but we also have the same hobbies, the same interests, and the same tastes. We’re alike enough to be best friends; we’re different enough to keep it interesting. She’s creative, an artist, so she fully understands my creative drives. I love her with all my heart. She has given me the support and encouragement to pursue my dream, and I have been having a blast with helping her to achieve hers.
I’m no longer rebuilding my life so much as continuing to build it into what I want it to be. My health is far better because I’m happy, and my issues are under control thanks to better eating habits and moderate exercise. I’m pursuing a degree in business so I can take the talent I discovered while working in the corporate world and try to use those powers for good instead of evil. I’m getting closer to accomplishing my goal of making a living as a writer. I have many great and faithful friends, a wonderful church home, and again, the best partner in the world in my wife Katie.