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Andy Andersen
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Why do so many men say "the wife" when referring to their spouse and women say "my husband" when referring to the same?

It's a conundrum, I tell ya.

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Do you say "The" or "My" when referring to your spouse?
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Females think they own men. Men know better.
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"The old ball and chain" sounds better than "My old ball and chain".
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Usually "the missus", but I've used "my wife" too.
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toober wrote:
Females know they own men. Men don't know any better.


FTFY

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I generally say something along the lines of, "I have to go speak to the wife about this."

Fun David Kahnt fact #45:

At church (where my wife is the Pastor) I refer to myself as "The Pastor's Wife" when talking about the spouse of the Pastor.

-DK
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Drew1365 wrote:
I was talking with a neighbor recently who referred to his wife or girlfriend (I'm not sure of the actual status of their relationship) as his "old lady."

Kind of caught me off guard. I hope the shock didn't show on my face.



I used to hear that a lot in the neighborhood in the '60's and it made me feel uncomfortable every time. I never once called my Dad "the old man" but a lot of my friends referred to their Dads as that.
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CINC House and The War Department are two that I use all the time when referencing the wife. My mother is known as the Old Bat. They are both fine with those terms and laugh when they hear them.
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Komodo wrote:
CINC House and The War Department are two that I use all the time when referencing the wife. My mother is known as the Old Bat. They are both fine with those terms and laugh when they hear them.


You are indeed blessed.
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Drew1365 wrote:
I was talking with a neighbor recently who referred to his wife or girlfriend (I'm not sure of the actual status of their relationship) as his "old lady."

Kind of caught me off guard. I hope the shock didn't show on my face.





In Chinese, they'll refer to their SO as "Old Man" or "Old Woman"... my wife doesn't like it, so I never have... much.
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I use the term "my." It's possessive. I like it.
The term "the" is too remote and impersonal.

When introducing her I often say, "my bride," though married many years.
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I've always detested "the wife". Too impersonal.
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Well poo! I guess I don't fit in here. I'm not married or even have a significant other. We certainly don't want Archie Bunker involved here.

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Agree with many above...One of the particularities of English...

It's boxes but not oxes (oxen)
Ten feet, but not ten foots
Geese not have gooses
my wife not the wife

"The wife" is too impersonal and should be reserved for things such endearing terms as "the boss."
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I say "my wife". I don't view it as a possessive phrase. The word "my" is simply a way of communicating my relationship to her. It's the same as when I say "my brother" or "my dad". Those phrases obviously don't denote ownership.

To my ear, the phrase "the wife" sounds degrading. It seems to turn one's wife into more of an object than a living person whom you have a relationship with.
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I say "The Boss"
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jonnylawless wrote:
I say "The Boss"


Likely the most accurate
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jonnylawless wrote:
I say "The Boss"


Couldn't help but think of that cheesy show with Tony Danza, "Who's the Boss?" The things networks will do to fill the airwaves...
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To me, "my wife" sounds respectful and "the wife" doesn't.
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She Who Must Be Obeyed
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I slip and call her "my girlfriend" a lot. I still can't get used to the idea that I'm married, it just sounds so...old.
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Drew1365 wrote:
I was talking with a neighbor recently who referred to his wife or girlfriend (I'm not sure of the actual status of their relationship) as his "old lady."

Kind of caught me off guard. I hope the shock didn't show on my face.

I've always thought "old lady" meant Mother. Oh dear.
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kswingruber wrote:


She Who Must Be Obeyed


That's exactly what came to mind. I loved watching "Rumpole of the Bailey"

That said, I'm not married.

My Grandfather would call my Grandma "mother" because he had become used to calling her that for their kids.
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mileser wrote:
kswingruber wrote:


She Who Must Be Obeyed


That's exactly what came to mind. I loved watching "Rumpole of the Bailey"

That said, I'm not married.

My Grandfather would call my Grandma "mother" because he had become used to calling her that for their kids.


I call my wife "Mom" for the same reason
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I call her 'my wife', because she is the second person to hold the position, and so 'the wife' is, strictly speaking, inaccurate...
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