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Heather Hamm
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Chris (who will henceforth be known as HAMMY) and I were celebrating our 5th wedding anniversary with a magnificent long weekend trip to Bolongo Bay Resort, St Thomas, Virgin Island on September 13, 2013 and that is when this new game adventure began.
Before I go any further, let me tell you that other than the sweet, "I love you" the other most common statement made by Hammy is, “I have another game idea…”

That being said, back to the anniversary celebration… because we did not want to do the extended parking thing, we made arrangements with Eli to take him to work at midnight then pick him at 4:30am so he could then drop us off at the airport for our 6am departure. Hammy and Eli took advantage of those few hours before Eli had to go to work by playing a couple of their favorite games. Me? I had to get some sleep. I was not going to miss my alarm and I do not do well on no sleep!

The terminal was very empty at 5am so to keep ourselves awake he started to tell me about the games that he and Eli were playing and to be honest I was only half listening. My friend, Angel, worked at the airport so she stopped by and chatted with us a little before we boarded. This was a welcome interruption as I didn’t want to hear the play by play of each of their games. Please know, I love games, not as much as Hammy, but I do love games. What I do not love is the recap once the game is over. I just want to win or lose, whatever, and then go on to the next thing, I do not have to talk about what exact play sealed my fate – good or bad. Once Angel walked away, Hammy went back to telling me about their games. Blah blah blah.

Fast forward a couple of hours. In the Atlanta airport we grabbed a coffee and breakfast and started blabbering on about how much fun we were going to have. Since I had never been on a trip like this, I was beyond excited. Once in the air, it probably wasn’t an hour into the flight that I started to fade. As I was nodding off in between conversations, Hammy leans down, kissed my forehead, and said, “I have an idea for a new game.” And with that, I went to sleep.

As we were getting settled in our room, Hammy grabbed a notebook out of his bag and sat on the bed. I looked over at him and asked what he was doing, to which he replied, “I have to jot these notes down before I forget! I really think I have a good idea!” My response was actually an eye roll followed by a sarcastic, “whatever.” I was in paradise and I was not going to waste a single minute. When he was done with his note, we changed into our swim suits and went to the pool.

Friday’s dinner was perfect, except I had to hear that this new game idea was about a game with no luck. A game where each person would have the same cards… and that was as far as he gotten.

Saturday was even better. We met a couple who were on their honeymoon, so we ended up hanging out with them for most of the day. We went on the sunset cruise and then on to dinner with them. After dinner when we headed back to the room and recapped the day. That is when he snuck it in… another mention of this game that was swimming in his head.

Sunday, we took it easy, and even went back to the room to watch the football game. I took a short nap and when I woke he was once again writing in his notebook. I didn’t ask, because like I said, this was not the first time I had seen this.

Monday morning we packed up and headed back to airport. While sitting at the terminal he looked over at me and said, “I think I can use any theme, but I keep going back to fantasy. Think I like that the best.” I smiled and went back to people watching.

To this point I really do not sound like a supportive wife. I know. The truth was, I had heard the same thing before. He was always telling me about a mechanic he would love to try in a game, or how he had never seen a certain theme and would love to make a game of it. It just never really went any further than the notebook.

This one turned out to be different.

For the next few months I watched him fever over combinations, character types, scoring, crazy ideas for tie breakers, all of it. When I realized that he was extremely serious about this game, I got on board. I helped him with whatever I could and let him bounce ideas off of me. Most of the time I did not feel like he needed me to answer, but rather just someone there who would be listening. I had never seen him so into an idea as he was. I could tell this was going to be THE ONE.

It became real when he came home from the Game Designers Meet Up group and told me that this guy who had recently published a new game on Kickstarter really liked his game and wanted to talk to him about maybe publishing it . I really didn’t want to get my hopes up, but I wanted for him what he wanted for himself more than anything in the world – to be a game designer.

This guy who took an interest in Hammy’s game turned out to be, none other than, Jake of V3G, and the rest – as they say – is history.

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