I had a hard time figuring out this game the first time too. My girlfriend and I spent and hour and a half reading and trying to understand the rule book. I hate the way it is written. Pull out the game and set it up. Then read the rules and play along as you go.
We didn't even get to play it the first night. We almost gave up. We came back to it the next day and studyed it. It was not fun. I know how you feel. It would be easier to have someone who knows how to play sit and show you what to do.
Plan on spending some time with that stupid rule book and check out this online demo. It helps! Good luck and ask specific questions! I'd love to help because this is now my favorite game!!!