Some people get mad when they lose, some get mad if you let them win. I only get mad when I am losing against a computerized opponent. A person beating me, I don't mind. Even the game beating me, I din't have a problem with. But if there is a computer cintrolling a "player" as an opponent, I get mad if I start losing (mad at myself for being bested by the machine).
Same for me. I am a perfectionist and often get angry at myself when I realize a mistake. It drives my wife nuts when I complain about myself and then still win. I can perfectly understand her, but have a really hard time stopping myself.
My job is not the day shift or the night shift, it's the always shift!
I will chop your head off!
I've gotten frustrated with board game apps, but then I just move onto a different one. Small World comes to mind. The AI in it is so random that sometimes a computerized opponent will just decide that it wants to pick on you the whole game, inevitably allowing another computerized player to run away with the victory. Then I have other games where one opponent tries to make it through the whole game with a single race, so it's just really inconsistent.
Some other specific games frustrate me for various reasons...Galaxy Trucker and Pandemic are a couple of examples...but for the most part, I enjoy the experience of a game much more than winning or losing.
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I used to get very emotionally involved in the result of my games, especially playing Warhammer and 40K. I don't touch those any more.
Euros seem to work better for that because the random can't punish you repeatedly.
One thing to do is to get overly dramatic when things go wrong. Laugh, cry, fake cry. Let of some steam and make your opponent smile. The games are meant to be fun.
My experience with miniature wargaming was that people took their sense of self-worth from their results in the game. This is a sad mind-set but I'm sure it is all too common.
I enjoy a game when I get to do lots of stuff, make lots of choices, solve lots of puzzles. In wargames, your favourite pieces can get knocked off early and suddenly you are just trying to survive the rest of the game. This can take the fun out of the game as each turn, you aren't doing much.
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Pretty much the only thing that throws me off balance are bad/gloating winners. Sure I may get frustrated if I miss some opportunity or if someone takes my spot but if it happens within the parameters of the game expecting them not to is silly.
As for losing to machines: Don't beat yourself up over it. For you to consider moves in the same kind of depth computers are capable of would take hours. Being beaten by a machine doing its best is the expected outcome, not the exception. That's why we make them.
I can get moody (I'm not sure it's anger, per se, more like aggressive despondency) in situations where I have no control, such as with dice rolls or card draws.
It happens in those situations where I am drawing or rolling terribly. Unfortunately, I roll and draw terribly quite often!
Interesting. That makes me more sympathetic to people who seek out games with little to no randomness and that I should take the gratuitous digs about random elements being shallow or what not with a grain of salt and that they are not consciously trying to come off as snooty.
I can be massively irritated by "push you luck" type situations where it feels like whatever I chose will be wrong. I don't think I'm that good at deciding on what I think is the logical course of action and then not feeling stressed when it doesn't work. I once had to leave the room for a minute during a game of Lost Cities and take a few deep breaths to calm myself down...
Not mad per-say. But I do get frustrated when I feel someone does something that gives someone else the win when it's clear what they are doing to everyone else but them, but they won't here it when you tell them (no trust, even though it's pure logic, not opinion) until it's too late and then they apologise!
Has happened to me in more than 1 game of Resistance. I even had a 5 player game where a good guy was choosing for the final mission and didn't pick themselves! They didn't trust if I was bad or good, so wouldn't believe anything I said. Even though I stated that if she was good (and it was fact by then that she was due to mission failures) and she wasn't on the final mission, we would lose...
I understand that people get flustered but it does frustrate me when the world isn't 'efficient' (as you can tell from my concise post). The frustration disappears as soon as we move on to a different game though.
TLDR: Yes but it only lasts until the box is packed away.
Feelings of anger are normal and healthy. Some of these games are highly competitive, and if you're not feeling any pangs of anger when someone makes a move that devastates your strategy or when you roll 1 after 1 after 1 after 1, you're not being entirely truthful with yourself. People are all different, and some feel it stronger than others, but it happens to all of us.
Showing that anger is where the problems can arise. Hold that in or, like someone else said, express it by being a bit overly dramatic and jokey. A long "NOOOOOOOOOOOO!!!!" can really be of use.
I used to get very grumbly and irritated when things didn't go my way in games, and it's honestly just a learning process with this type of hobby. Once you figure out how to lose and deal with your planning being screwed with, you'll be much happier.
In the moment, things seem like more of a big deal than they are. Once the game is over and you can take a step back and see that it's seriously not a big deal, it eases. The trick is to remember that during the game-state so you can avoid outwardly expressing the angry emotions when they come up.
Only if I'm tired really. Sometimes I just shouldn't go out. When I'm having a streak of stupid bad luck I get irritated. It's no fun when you can't even be a challenge to your opponent. But it happens to everyone.