Bernhard Vierthaler wrote:
The totem woman allows me to hunt and court first. My question: Do I have to use the Totem woman for Courting? As I understand it is an advantage to go last when courting.
The Totem Woman says: "May attack and hunt first".
The word "may" probably answers your first question, it is an optional ability. Also, nothing is mentioned about "courting". You are right, you are mostly better off if you court last (except in the husband promotion case, where you want to go first, and immediately promote, not court), so I think the ability is all about hunting first, which is indeed a substantial benefit.