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Subject: Help! I stop wanting to play games....and I don't want to feel like that. rss

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J K
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I used to be able to play games non stop everyday (although having a family, job and other responsibilities prevented this of course). For the past several months I have zero desire to play anything. I have pulled out a couple games to play with my wife and upon opening the box decide "I don't really feel like playing a game right now". There isn't anything new that has filled the time wasting void that gaming used to provide. I don't know what has happened, does anyone else go through cycles like this?
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You're burned out. Take a break. Get into another hobby. I once sold every game I owned and took a break for five years.
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I cycle too. But more importantly, I don't have the enthusiasm anymore to get excited enough for both myself and girlfriend. I guess my question is this:

Would you feel the same way if she was the one pulling the game off the shelf?
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I get this every now and again and normally lasts for a few months. Played less recently anyway because my wife's heavily pregnant and by the time we've put our daughter to bed we're tired anyway.

I just accept that I'm going through a slump and spend the evenings playing videogames, PC games, catching up on movies, music documentaries and so on.

Though to be honest I'm in a band and that takes up time and I play cricket in the summer, so it's not always a bad thing to have one fewer hobby to keep up with for a while.
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Its a phase, don't sweat it too much.
If it really bothers you though, maybe look at other aspects of gaming that don't necessarily involve playing.
For example
1. Look at enhancing your storage solutions
2. Look at enhancing your components
3. Read strategy guides for you favorite games
4. Research different variants and/or expansions
5. Discover new gaming partners
6. Inventory your games ready to put up on a math trade

If none of these appeal to you, just enjoy your break from gaming.
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I've found that since having kids, I have started to cycle like this. I'll play board games for a while, then pick up a show on Netflix and stop playing games for a few weeks, then go back to board gaming, then maybe focus on a PS game for a while.

For me it is about two things:

1) No longer having the time to do everything I want to do, due to the time required to take care of the kiddos. By the time they are in bed, I've got an hour or two. Some of the longer games I like just don't fit into this time frame, and there are other things I want to do as well.

2) No longer always having the energy at the end of the day to sit down and burn my brain and problem solve. It is often much easier to just watch TV or play a video game (veg out). To find nights when both my wife and I have the energy to play something? That's rare.

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Occasionally I'll feel this way. Sometimes I get really bad bouts of it that can last up to five minutes!
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I think sometimes, I have these moments. And it has to do with the mental expenditure. When I've had a long day of thinking with work. Or if I'm socially spent, and the idea of doing something with someone else just seems like a lot of work. Especially if I would need to teach a game.

It usually passes in a few days for me. I get renewed energy and then I want to play again.
 
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GrayDaddy wrote:
I don't know what has happened, does anyone else go through cycles like this?


Ask your wife. devil
 
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Being an undiagnosed ADD type, I often get that way. I agree with the suggestion of rotating your hobby of the moment.

I also find that reading helps rekindle the gaming mojo again. Typically history books will lead me into the war games or sci-fi might spark an appeal to Race for the Galaxy or equivalent.
 
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I suffer by it constantly, unfortunately. That is, I guess that I don`t feel like playing games by myself, and I am too bad at getting myself to my club to get some gaming. I find myself choosing critically which games to play when I am at gatherings as well. But I know I love playing in the periods when I am really motivated.
 
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Not unusual. With any hobby there's plenty of reasons to feel burned out. I mean, I haven't done the "games every week thing" in a year. I jumped in feet first and then slowed down a bit.
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Try approaching the gaming situation from a different angle. If the same old experiences aren't doing it for you anymore, try and find new ones. Start a brand new gaming group and teach some games to new players - I find that new players' enthusiasm reinvigorates me even with games I may be burned out on.
 
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Not to get too personal but how are things going otherwise? Are you enjoying games when you do get started? Have you lost interest in or no longer enjoy other things too? Speaking from personal experience, depression can be like a downward slope so gradual you aren't aware of it but be a steep climb to get out of.
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Board gaming hasn't been all that interesting to me for the past six months or so. I have been spending more time with my other hobbies, mostly reading history.
 
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I was so concerned with getting my 10x10 done that once I wrapped it up I took a little break. Fallout 4 helped as has painting miniatures. It is not as extreme of a case but I am sure I will be back in the saddle soon enough.
 
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I know the feeling. I guess I'll get back into it when I feel like it. Or some amazing game comes along that makes me think "I HAVE to play this".

But I have plenty of games, so I dont think thats the problem.

 
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The solution is simple: buy more games. It's just like having a child solves all relationship problems.
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Yup - I'm in the take a break camp.

There's no harm in that, but there is harm in freaking out about losing your passion.

Take a month off to start with and fill the space with something positive (family time, exercise, learning a new skill, reading, etc).
 
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I had the same for one game: Go
I used quite an amount of time to study and played in a club.
I got better till I hit a wall and didn't progress anymore.
Then I moved . I don't have a club around the corner anymore and had less time to play. My game has deteriorated and I don't play a lot anymore.
Sometimes I want to want, but I don't really do. I also have that feeling that I lost a passion!
 
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GrayDaddy wrote:
For the past several months I have zero desire to play anything. I have pulled out a couple games to play with my wife and upon opening the box decide "I don't really feel like playing a game right now". There isn't anything new that has filled the time wasting void that gaming used to provide. I don't know what has happened, does anyone else go through cycles like this?


It's not just a "game" thing. People go through cycles on just about everything. Eating right. Playing an instrument. Going for walks. ...Cycling through habits, hobbies, and desires in life is a natural thing. If you don't want to play games, don't play. When and if you ever want to play them again, do it. I don't think it's really any more complicated than that.

Life is too short to force yourself into something you don't want to do (unless it's health related).
 
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I believe that human beings like structure and habit, and need that to feel stable, but only up to a point. When we get into a rut, we rebel. Perhaps you need to " shake up" your playing routine, set up games in a different place in the house, join a new gaming group, or even buy new games that are radically different to yournusual tastes. A change is as good as a rest, or so they say.
 
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IMCarnochan wrote:
I was so concerned with getting my 10x10 done that once I wrapped it up I took a little break. Fallout 4 helped as has painting miniatures. It is not as extreme of a case but I am sure I will be back in the saddle soon enough.


Gaming was much nicer when not worrying about that, not worth it imo (a 10x 10 happens pretty easy for me, I was pushing for the 15x15 for a bit). In the end I never bothered with the outstanding 2 games of RFTG. I don't understand the hype on that one.
 
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Thanks everyone for the input. Sounds like the cycle of a hobby.
 
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