Is there a way to get my geek mails forwarded to my normal Gmail account so I get notified in my normal mail inbox?
Yes. Go to your Geekmail, then click Settings on the left. You'll see an option to forward to your email address.
and I have created my collection of games list and stuff I want to trade. On the button that says find trades automatically nothing comes up but when I go manually looking I find stuff in my collection that others want with something in their collection that I want so a bit confused why the auto thing is not picking them up? Hope that makes sense....
Are the games you want listed as Wishlist in your collection? Or Want in Trade? As far as I know it will only pick up matches if you have it marked as Want in Trade, but not if it is only on your Wishlist. Same goes for others if they only have items on their Wishlist and not marked as Want in Trade.
Final question is when looking for people to trade with is their a way to filter the country they are in?
When you go to Trades you want Custom Search. That will allow you to select specific countries.