Maybe you need to pick the tiles with crowns instead of letting her get them?
It's certainly a balance of choosing a specific tile that works well with what you have versus taking one that may not be as valuable to give you first shot at the next set of tiles that will be coming out.
It's a great little filler.
I know a friend of mine prefers to play the epic game when playing with two as all the tiles come out and there's no chance of an uneven tile distribution.
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Ha! Before even reading your post and just reading the headline I was going to suggest that you don't play my wife or any other woman as I've heard from other people that their girlfriend/wife creams them without mercy in this game. Now that I've read your post, I'm gonna have to say that's your problem right there!