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My niece asked me to perform their wedding ceremony next weekend. Non religious. I'm officially ordained by the Church of the Latter Day Dude.

I have a rough outline of things to say but thought I might bounce my draft off you fine folks for suggestions

1. Welcome to all friends and family

2. Moment of silence for family that has passed

3. Speak about what love and marriage mean to me and the journey they are beginning

4. Ask them to share any vows they have

5. Pronounce them and send them off

Does this feel like a good sequence? Particularly placement of moment of silence?

Any suggestions for things to add? Tips in general? Anything at all really? We are doing a rehearsal on Friday, so I'll at least get a practice run . But I am a wee bit nervous that I'll distract from their moment somehow.

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We had my step-grandma "officiate" ours after all our paid actual officiants kept moving to the midwest and a quiet town hall ceremony months earlier for the paperwork.

I think the placing of the moment of silence is really excellent.

Do they not have anything more ceremonial that they want to do? We dug into our ethnic traditions to add non-religious stuff (we had 4 different religions represented, double wedding), and found a wealth of small things that looked and felt cool.

For instance, there's a german tradition where you each bring dirt from the homes you are moving from, combine that. Later on, you use it to plant an evergreen to each side of your front door. (A house I moved in later obviously had people who'd followed through on this tradition decades earlier!)
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TFang wrote:
We had my step-grandma "officiate" ours after all our paid actual officiants kept moving to the midwest and a quiet town hall ceremony months earlier for the paperwork.

I think the placing of the moment of silence is really excellent.

Do they not have anything more ceremonial that they want to do? We dug into our ethnic traditions to add non-religious stuff (we had 4 different religions represented, double wedding), and found a wealth of small things that looked and felt cool.

For instance, there's a german tradition where you each bring dirt from the homes you are moving from, combine that. Later on, you use it to plant an evergreen to each side of your front door. (A house I moved in later obviously had people who'd followed through on this tradition decades earlier!)


The bride's only suggestion is for me to where a grass skirt or perform the ceremony like the priest from Princess Bride. The groom hasn't offered anything.

He is from Arkansas so the dirt idea is kind of interesting. I'll ask them about that as his family could bring some up for sure.
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Congrats! I think that sounds like a good sequence. If you're nervous in general about performing publicly, be yourself, there's a reason they've asked you
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Will they be exchanging rings? That was the first thing that stuck out to me as missing.
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I'd at least drop a mawwaige somewhere!
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bluelise wrote:
Will they be exchanging rings? That was the first thing that stuck out to me as missing.


You know you've been steeped in eastern tradion for real when you forget western weddings have a ring exchange on the actual wedding day intead of at the formal betrothal.
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bluelise wrote:
Will they be exchanging rings? That was the first thing that stuck out to me as missing.


Yes. I guess that is #5
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RoyalApe wrote:
bluelise wrote:
Will they be exchanging rings? That was the first thing that stuck out to me as missing.


Yes. I guess that is #5


Having officiated four weddings, my suggestion is don't. Public speaking is horrible nightmare scenario in which you cannot escape.

How will the bride be arriving? Will she be walking down the isle? Will she be accompanied by someone to give her away? Will you be asking if someone is giving her away. Do they need the tradition trading her hand from the father to the husband, or will be less tradition and he just escorts before he sits down? No escort at all?



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Dispaminite wrote:
RoyalApe wrote:
bluelise wrote:
Will they be exchanging rings? That was the first thing that stuck out to me as missing.


Yes. I guess that is #5


Having officiated four weddings, my suggestion is don't. Public speaking is horrible nightmare scenario in which you cannot escape.

How will the bride be arriving? Will she be walking down the isle? Will she be accompanied by someone to give her away? Will you be asking if someone is giving her away. Do they need the tradition trading her hand from the father to the husband, or will be less tradition and he just escorts before he sits down? No escort at all?





It's much too late for the don't option but thanks for advice

Grandfather is walking her down. She won't really be given away.

It's also going to be outdoors which means it will likely either being raining or unseasonably hot.
 
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Dispaminite wrote:
RoyalApe wrote:
bluelise wrote:
Will they be exchanging rings? That was the first thing that stuck out to me as missing.


Yes. I guess that is #5


Having officiated four weddings, my suggestion is don't. Public speaking is horrible nightmare scenario in which you cannot escape.

How will the bride be arriving? Will she be walking down the isle? Will she be accompanied by someone to give her away? Will you be asking if someone is giving her away. Do they need the tradition trading her hand from the father to the husband, or will be less tradition and he just escorts before he sits down? No escort at all?


I didn't even know you when I got married and I'm still mad I missed my chance at a Disp-officiated wedding.
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Is item 2 due to a recent death or something the couple requested? If so, at least to me, it seems a bit out of place in a wedding, no matter where it is.
 
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pilotbob wrote:
Is item 2 due to a recent death or something the couple requested? If so, at least to me, it seems a bit out of place in a wedding, no matter where it is.


Something that they specifically requested. It does seem a bit melancholy for what should be a celebratory day. But one of them was the bride's father and rule #1 is do what the bride asks.
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RoyalApe wrote:
pilotbob wrote:
Is item 2 due to a recent death or something the couple requested? If so, at least to me, it seems a bit out of place in a wedding, no matter where it is.


Something that they specifically requested. It does seem a bit melancholy for what should be a celebratory day. But one of them was the bride's father and rule #1 is do what the bride asks.


OK, that makes sense.

SO, yea right at the begging when you welcome friends and family and also remember family members that couldn't be here today... let's take a minue to remember them...

Seems right I guess.
 
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I had a friend of mine (from a Scrabble group) officiate my wedding. It was also important for me for it not to be religious. I still have the script that we used if you want me to send it along for ideas!
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SarahBoBara wrote:
I had a friend of mine (from a Scrabble group) officiate my wedding. It was also important for me for it not to be religious. I still have the script that we used if you want me to send it along for ideas!


Thanks Sarah!

I blended your script with some other ideas I had and it turned out superb.

Thanks for the input everybody.
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