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Like most children, my 8-year-old son is remarkably resilient. Try as I might to plant emotional seeds that will sprout into little trauma trees that can only be pruned with expensive therapy, Nat gamely shrugs it off.

With each misstep, however, my own little trauma garden keeps sprouting new and interesting shrubbery.

As neurosis collections go, I suppose mine is comparable to that of most concerned parents. But I can't help having a paranoid dad vision of a gloomy Tuesday in 2020 when Nat stops by on his way to the psychiatrist to say, "No, really, Mom seems to be doing just fine without you, and I could use fifty bucks, and by the way, I finally figured out the exact moment you ruined my childhood and turned me into a nutcase."

If and when that vision materializes, I will not be surprised if he pinpoints a lovely Monday in spring of 2008.

It's Board Game Night. Well, not officially. But Nat grabs a sticky pad and puts little notes to that effect on several doors and walls. In an atypical show of restraint, I decline to point out that "Borad" is a spelling atrocity.

We start happily enough with a short but amusing first-ever play of The Lost World: Jurassic Park. Despite my repeated nudging, Nat neglects to move his two-legged appetizers out of the main building fast enough, and most get eaten by the T-Rex.

In logical daddy fashion, I assume we will play again: The game is kind of fun, now we know how to play and, not insignificantly, it's kind of a pain to put away.

But Nat has other ideas and marches downstairs to pick a game. I wait and hope. Survive!, perhaps? Amazeing Labyrinth? Harry Potter & the Halls of Hogwarts? A surprise choice?

He returns with a big smile on his face and produces...Candyland.

My little black heart shrinks and darkens. Candyland? It's an okay first game for non-readers, and we've played it many times. But not for years. Why would we?

As my wife shoots dirty looks at me, I put on my snoot mask and go to work. "That game's not fun." "You don't do anything in that game." "You don't really want to play that." And finally: "That game is for...babies."

Nat weathers the snoot storm patiently. At first he simply says, "But I like it." Finally, he says, "I'm not a baby. And you always tell me that we don't have to like the same things."

What else can I do, now that he's deviously used my own words against me? I grit my teeth and play the least lively game of Candyland we've ever had.

Later, I tuck him in bed and sit with him until he falls asleep. I stare for a few moments, as is my habit, at his beautiful sleeping face. I walk into the living room and see the pile of games on the table. I feel my wife's laser beam eyes still burning my skull. And it hits me with the authority of a gravitational force: I'm a total jackass.

Mind you, I don't think I'm typically a jackass. My churlishness tends toward ridiculousness rather than ridicule. My incessant, off-key singing, for example, would force you to calculate the threshhold at which you consider putting out your own eardrums.

Which, I guess, brings me at last to the point of this stupid, pathetic, self-indulgent post. A point which I hope is unnecessary, because you're smarter than me and can just point and laugh at the idiot.

When your kid asks to play a game with you, that is a gift. Of all the things he could do, he chooses something that is one of your passions, even if the game itself is not one of your favorites. When you want to say no--that game's no good, that game's no fun, that game's for babies--that's your stupid pride talking, not your heart.

Just play. It's cheaper than therapy. And more fun.
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Is this the time for me to say
Iblankloveblankyou
and there is every chance you wife and son do as well

and yeah yeah we have never met
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There's never a bad time to say those three words--much appreciated.
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Meh... my son and I argue about games all the time - he's a AmeriTrasher and I'm a Eurosnoot... it's like Tripp and Chapel being married. We played Stone Age for the first time yesterday and he was frustrated that he'd only lost by 2 points, until he realised I hadn't scored my bonus cards yet.

Just wait till you want to play Squad Leader and he tells you it's about time you learned ASL.
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John, that will be a proud day--when my son wants to play a bigger wargame than I do. I'm getting weepy just thinking about it.
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...When your kid asks to play a game with you, that is a gift...

You understand the situation just fine. There are times for game-snobbery, and the other times you just play.

(In the future, if you don't want to play Candyland, make sure that you don't own Candyland. That "game" is coming nowhere near my family!)

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Well, Paul, Candyland actually belongs to my son. I'm afraid that if I get rid of it, I'll have to explain why. And that conversation is not going to go well.
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Ahh sounds like it's lesson learnt but have you taken the next hard step and discussed it with him and apologised even. That will save you a motza on therapy in the future IMHO.
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"You don't really want to play that."


Who do you think you are, Obi-wan? Your pathetic attempts at mind control are nothing compared to the power of "the Son".

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Yes, I have apologized a couple times. I didn't even need to point out that I'm a wanker--he made it quite clear he already knew that.
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So who won?


I crushed him!
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What's a wanker?


I'm sure the UK contingent should leave this one alone..
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What's a wanker?
Frank,

Allow me to be the first of many to answer that one for you with "look in a mirror, sunshine".
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What's a wanker?


Frank! A hardened Ameritrasher and nobody's ever called you a wanker???

I thought you guys loved the trash-talkin'

I'm a wanker, I'm a wanker,
and it does me good like it bloody well should,
I'm a wanker, I'm a wanker,
and I'm always pulling my hood.
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Friendless wrote:
Meh... my son and I argue about games all the time - he's a AmeriTrasher and I'm a Eurosnoot... it's like Tripp and Chapel being married.

That would be the best sitcom ever.
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MrSkeletor wrote:
What's a wanker?


I'm sure the UK contingent should leave this one alone..


It is a very rude word that Americans think is mildly rude and keep trotting out, imagining that nobody minds. We do. It is very lower class, boorish, vulgar and stupid. Stop saying that word. It is too rude for gamers. Bastard, yes. W*nk*r, no. Stop it.
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It is very lower class, boorish, vulgar and stupid.


..and thus, completely acceptable in Australia
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    Americans generally prefer "jerk" which has the same provenance. It's largely lost its original meaning here, and "suck" is quickly following suit.

    The trick to Candyland is cheating. Once you've crushed your kid half a dozen times by cheating he'll never want to bring it out again.

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Gief Candyland. I just HAVE to play it now that everyone spouts crap about that game.
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You sir are not worthy of my comment.

How very dare you!

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mistermarino wrote:
Well, Paul, Candyland actually belongs to my son. I'm afraid that if I get rid of it, I'll have to explain why. And that conversation is not going to go well.


"Son, sometimes board games go to sleep for a very long time...."
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Wait, what? There's a game farm?!

Oh man, why did I never hear about this!

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"We took your copy of Candyland to go live on a farm."


" Where it gets to play with alot of other Candylands and run free all day!"
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EYE of NiGHT wrote:
It is a very rude word that Americans think is mildly rude and keep trotting out, imagining that nobody minds. We do. It is very lower class, boorish, vulgar and stupid. Stop saying that word. It is too rude for gamers. Bastard, yes. W*nk*r, no. Stop it.

But I had an English friend tell me that exact thing (that it's much ruder than we Americans think, and that my friends and I shouldn't say it casually in a gaming context) about the word "bastard". The mysteries of dialect.
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EYE of NiGHT wrote:
It is a very rude word that Americans think is mildly rude and keep trotting out, imagining that nobody minds. We do. It is very lower class, boorish, vulgar and stupid. Stop saying that word. It is too rude for gamers. Bastard, yes. W*nk*r, no. Stop it.

But I had an English friend tell me that exact thing (that it's much ruder than we Americans think, and that my friends and I shouldn't say it casually in a gaming context) about the word "bastard". The mysteries of dialect.


Ah, the people that gave us the "bastard sword"....intriguing.
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