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If you're not in my family and you're close enough for me to feel breath from your mouth then you're too damned close! (and get off my damn lawn!)

What is your personal space or area of comfort. I've read that americans are the most standoffish of any persons in the world. They (read you folks) consistently need 2 1/2 to 3 feet of personal space around them. That is roughly I think the space that your arms outspread can emcompass. Does this work for youse guys?

Please do tell.
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My radius is about 12,000 miles. So, get off my planet. sauron
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mbourgeois wrote:

If you're not in my family and you're close enough for me to feel breath from your mouth then you're too damned close! (and get off my damn lawn!)

What is your personal space or area of comfort. I've read that americans are the most standoffish of any persons in the world. They (read you folks) consistently need 2 1/2 to 3 feet of personal space around them. That is roughly I think the space that your arms outspread can emcompass. Does this work for youse guys?

Please do tell.


35 inches is my shoulder to cuff on a tailored shirt. So, one arm, stuck straight out to the side, is the radius of my personal space.

Enduring being the youngest of four siblings adds three or four inches to that when I'm suspicious. You become flinch-conditioned.

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If you are in the same aisle as me, you are too close. These are my books, toys, games, movies, guitars, tomatoes, etc.
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Erniepaul wrote:
If you are in the same aisle as me, you are too close. These are my books, toys, games, movies, guitars, tomatoes, etc.


This was at least like my youngest niece when she was way little... you could be looking at something in the aisle with us but god help you if you picked it up and moved away... she'd be on you faster than a loss prevention officer saying, "Put it down... it's mine... YOU CAN'T HAVE IT!!!"

I learned to skulk around really well with her.
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If you're touching me, or almost touching me, and I don't know you, then you are too close. I once had a customer back me up into a display of HABA games as they kept inching forward.

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mbourgeois wrote:

If you're not in my family and you're close enough for me to feel breath from your mouth then you're too damned close! (and get off my damn lawn!)

What is your personal space or area of comfort. I've read that americans are the most standoffish of any persons in the world. They (read you folks) consistently need 2 1/2 to 3 feet of personal space around them. That is roughly I think the space that your arms outspread can emcompass. Does this work for youse guys?

Please do tell.


Back away. You're in it.
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shebby wrote:
If you're touching me, or almost touching me, and I don't know you, then you are too close. I once had a customer back me up into a display of HABA games as they kept inching forward.

Scary.
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I don't suppose you could just knee them in the happy sack and blame it on an old childhood injury?

Or I suppose if you could call belches on command you could just let loose in their face and then apologize... "oh, so sorry... did I just do that... my face is so red". blush
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I was comfortable enough in Madrid's subway in rush hour, so I'm pretty sure that my requirements are almost nil.

I try to do my best at giving poor Americans their space anyway. I have a lot more trouble with your average American's idea of what constitutes acceptable displays of emotion. The body language and tone of voice that is perfectly normal between two Spaniards having a mild argument is seen in by Americans as something that might come to blows.

Compared to Spaniards, Portuguese and Italian, you all seem quite cold.
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hibikir wrote:

Compared to Spaniards, Portuguese and Italian, you all seem quite cold.


It may have something to do with that for the better part of the past two centuries, The majority Americans rarely lived close enough to see what their neighbor is wearing, whereas in these countries you are lucky if you could turn around in a circle without bumping someone for the same time frame. Americans who are not on urban mass transit or in club/concert venues may not experience the sensation of another person all day. One tends to live a very mentally internal life like this.
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I'm freaky for an American, in that my personal space is inside my clothes.
Unless I really don't like you, you can be touching me, and I'll only worry about it because it probably makes you uncomfortable.
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hibikir wrote:
I was comfortable enough in Madrid's subway in rush hour, so I'm pretty sure that my requirements are almost nil.


Would you be comfortable in this train?


It's situational for me. If I'm standing in a crowd, I don't feel uncomfortable standing right next to someone. If I'm in a line at a store, there's no need for you to stand right up against me.
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I don't so much worry about the space right near, or in front of me as I do the space immediately behind me.

If you're within three feet of me, looking over my shoulder, you're giving me the willies...

Grocery stores, and other lines, I tend to stand at right angles to the flow of traffic, with my back to the candy display.
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mileser wrote:
My radius is about 12,000 miles. So, get off my planet. sauron


You may want to try a low carb diet....
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Hobbespm wrote:
mileser wrote:
My radius is about 12,000 miles. So, get off my planet. sauron


You may want to try a low carb diet....


Nah if your that far gone, just go with the lypo (lipo?) and the tummy tuck.
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jessitron wrote:
I'm freaky for an American, in that my personal space is inside my clothes.
Unless I really don't like you, you can be touching me, and I'll only worry about it because it probably makes you uncomfortable.


Hmmm, inside yer clothes you say? It gives new meaning to wanting to get inside yer pants. Sorry, I had to say it. I had no choice.
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If I can see you, you are too close. I avoid aisles at the grocery store if anyone is in them.
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Neat! we share the same personal space! (Showing a "mitten hand") My space is *here*, where's yours?
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Personal space of course expands and contracts depending on context, but I've read about how Americans want a bit more distance and that feels right to me in my experiences in Europe and even Canada.

I think due to being a geek I'm probably even more standoffish. I'd rather not shake hands, not because of any OCD reasons, but rather a mixture of disliking the formality and not really wanting to have personal space crossed. I'd be quite happy if our culture adopted the Japanese bow.

When I started dating my wife, who's from Canada, I quickly found to my horror how everyone wanted to hug and for women you were supposed to do the double air kiss for greetings and goodbyes.

My wife's best friend still makes fun of me about the time I first met her. We approached and I dutifully extended my hand to fit into, what I thought, were social norms. I may not like to shake hands but I'll still do it. Instead she's suddenly in my face, trying to give a hug AND a kiss. She said my eyes suddenly bugged out and my face contorted.

When we go up to Canada now I suck it up and grind through the large social gatherings where a dozen hugs and two dozen kisses are are expected. I can't stand it, but "when in Rome..." still, it's pretty draining and stressful to me.

I'd be quite happy just to say "Hi!" to the whole group, maybe half wave my hand and that would be it.
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