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Tessa Bartz
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Hey there! I am new to these forums and was THRILLED to find one for the women among us!

I'm not new to playing board games. I've played them all my life but mostly the traditional "Family Night" type games from Hasbro et al.

My husband and his friends have introduced me to games like Agricola, Dominion, and Arkham Horror in the last year or so. (We've only been married since Sept '09) I am LOVING these games. Some take a while for me to get the hang of but I like a lot of them.

They convinced me the BGG Con was something we ALL had to experience. Honestly, I figured I would end up in our hotel room much of the time reading books or sleeping. However, I agreed to go. We managed to get 3 badges at the last moment and everyone was able to make it.

Now, I have never been to ANY sort of Con EVER, but I have to say it was NOTHING like I imagined. I expected a very cliquish attitude from people. People were VERY friendly and helpful when I got lost, directionally or while playing a game!

I had an absolute BLAST at this con. I met a lot of really nice, friendly, FUN people (Who have the same weird assed sense of humor I do!! WOOT). I played games I didn't even know existed and made an ass out of myself playing Quelf in public. (Which OMG... drunken party game of the CENTURY. Add booze to that mix and BWAHAHAHAH)

Anyway, I said all that to say this: Thank You to everyone I had the opportunity to meet in any way at the con. You showed this n00b an unexpectedly fantastic weekend and I'll be back again next year.
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Anye Freer
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I am glad you enjoyed it!

It has been VERY rare that I've had a negative boardgaming experience that I can attribute to someone having an issue with my gender. I won't say it has never happened but it is pretty rare - and that's a good thing.

Maybe we will cross paths next year!
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Tessa Bartz
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I wasn't really anticipating a problem with my gender. Just that folks that knew one another would stick together. Sometimes I'm not so bright! lol
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Hi, Tessa! I'm glad you had fun at the convention . . . I certainly did! This was my second year attending and, like you, I have been really struck with how friendly and helpful people were.

In particular, as an unaccompanied woman, I've been impressed with how comfortable and easy it is to be in such an environment that's so largely male. I've never been made to feel awkward or threatened or anything like that . . . these Geek guys are awesome!

It's great to "see" you here, and I hope our paths will cross at next year's convention!

Lawson

[Edited to fix typo]
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Welcome to the geek! kiss

BGG con is the best CON ever
Actually it is the only con I attend with the exception of GeekWay to the West, which is local to me.

I 'm really sorry I missed it this year (I have an 8 month son), but I HOPE (big emphasis here) to meet you all next year!! laugh
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This was my first BGG.con too, and I was pleased to see how many women there were in attendance. Just eyeballing it, I was guessing it was 20- 30 %, so that's not too bad.

I was lucky in that even tho I was there on my own, I knew about 10 - 15 people there already, as a lot of our local gamers made it down as well, and another local Denverite woman and I were splitting our room, so I knew I could get away from Gamer-Guy land if I needed to.

I didn't have any problems at all, and especially not gender-type issues, which was so cool. I did play one game with a kind of creepy person (he wasn't a leering type, just generally creepyish), and I got comments from friends afterwards, which said to me that people were looking out for me. which was nice.

Glad you had a great time too. Some of us should do an all girl game of Age of Steam or something next time! Really kill those guys, lol!

And Lawson - What up, "Dog"! Lol!
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I couldn't make it this year... but I have been to a BGG.Cons in the past and they are always totally awesome.

Hope to see you all next year.
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I am looking forward to going next year. It does seem like an experience not to be missed.
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I had a wonderful experience last year too, but missed it this year. I'm planning to go to next year's though; can't wait!

Welcome to BGG!
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Hi Tessa, and welcome. Glad you went to BGG.con and didn't stay in your room. This was my third one so I knew what to expect (friendliness and acceptance for the most part, room is for sleeping or grabbing snacks).

I was very surprised to see so many women there -- I'm often one of only a few females at game days here. Maybe the guys go to game day to get away from wives and girlfriends?? Anyway, I ran into Anye and was on photo safari with Nikki, but didn't get to play a game with either. Next time we should plan a gal thing of some sort.
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Dingus wrote:
Anyway, I ran into Anye and was on photo safari with Nikki, but didn't get to play a game with either. Next time we should plan a gal thing of some sort.

:Waves at Betty: I really am liking the idea of a girls game time next con. Would be nice to see a bunch of us in one place. meeple
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I really am liking the idea of a girls game time next con.


Count me in . . . if I make it to BGG.CON 2010, I'd love to be in on that!
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FYI, I'm a big brother. If ever there's inappropriate behavior at my convention, alert me and I will fix it. Pronto. Thanks for comin', ladies. You make the convention particularly special to me...
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derk wrote:
If ever there's inappropriate behavior at my convention, alert me and I will fix it.


Awww that's so sweet coming from the guy in the kilt! We probably all have had our share of standing up for ourselves, so it's nice to know back up is out there.

It was my first Con too, and I felt really shy at first and hung on to my husband's apron strings for the first day, but threw myself at strangers the second day. People were so cool! I had been in a couple altercations on BGG.com about sexism in gaming and was a little intimidated that I'd meet someone who had told me to basically sit down and shut up, but nothing like that happened. People were all happy to teach me things and even be beaten by me (including war games and fanatical top-spinning games, so there), which was so fun--I get tired of just beating my husband all the time.

I actually wanted to have a morning coffee get together for the women at the Con, but wasn't sure anyone would be into it. Not to gripe or anything, just to chill and connect, find out what people are into etc. I game with guys ALL the time, so getting to game with some more experienced women was the bomb. Would folks be into that next year?

And is anyone interested in figuring out how we can bring our kids and actually manage to participate? I know the Con doesn't want to take it on, but I think it's a big thing for women to be able to come if we put some thought into it, especially for new parents. Just an idea.
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SilentPartner wrote:
derk wrote:
If ever there's inappropriate behavior at my convention, alert me and I will fix it.


Awww that's so sweet coming from the guy in the kilt! We probably all have had our share of standing up for ourselves, so it's nice to know back up is out there.

It was my first Con too, and I felt really shy at first and hung on to my husband's apron strings for the first day, but threw myself at strangers the second day. People were so cool! I had been in a couple altercations on BGG.com about sexism in gaming and was a little intimidated that I'd meet someone who had told me to basically sit down and shut up, but nothing like that happened. People were all happy to teach me things and even be beaten by me (including war games and fanatical top-spinning games, so there), which was so fun--I get tired of just beating my husband all the time.

I actually wanted to have a morning coffee get together for the women at the Con, but wasn't sure anyone would be into it. Not to gripe or anything, just to chill and connect, find out what people are into etc. I game with guys ALL the time, so getting to game with some more experienced women was the bomb. Would folks be into that next year?

And is anyone interested in figuring out how we can bring our kids and actually manage to participate? I know the Con doesn't want to take it on, but I think it's a big thing for women to be able to come if we put some thought into it, especially for new parents. Just an idea.


As a guy who now lives in a relatively equal and socialist utopia, I think that sounds really cool. I get that the ladies sometimes want their own events within something as (presumably) large as BGGCON. I would have liked to see more things like this at Essen 09. IMHO it makes events more accesible, more fun and therefore more successful for all concerned.
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SilentPartner wrote:

I actually wanted to have a morning coffee get together for the women at the Con, but wasn't sure anyone would be into it. Not to gripe or anything, just to chill and connect, find out what people are into etc. I game with guys ALL the time, so getting to game with some more experienced women was the bomb. Would folks be into that next year?

And is anyone interested in figuring out how we can bring our kids and actually manage to participate? I know the Con doesn't want to take it on, but I think it's a big thing for women to be able to come if we put some thought into it, especially for new parents. Just an idea.

I would be up for a morning coffee klatch. Mind you, I rarely drink coffee, but I could bring my con-convenient oatmeal with me. I think earlier in the con would be easier, I'm guessing since I know my sleeping habits were all over the place as the con went on.

On the kids thing, I'm personally going to skip that. I seriously considered bringing my teenager, but in the end I didn't and I'm so glad. For me, it was the first time in probably, hmm, 14 years that I wasn't responsible for anyone but me. I didn't have to worry about feeding anyone else, finding anyone else's socks , or make sure anyone else was being entertained.

For me, the vacation was sorely needed. So next year, I'm going kid free again. Then I have no excuse to miss the coffee morning!
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Lol. Good for you!
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Seems like you ladies had a great time with no problems! I can't wait to make it out next year. I too would not want to bring my daughter though for A much needed break would be very nice & relaxing with some games (not worrying about how to keep my daughter entertained, happy, fed, etc.) You know, being momcool
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(edited to add)But I would definitely support and still hang out with attendees that would (could) bring their bundles of joy! I do on some gaming group meetups anyway and its nice to see families gaming together.

I miss going to conventions and this one seems like a blast so here's to hoping that I make it out to the next one! And I would definitely make the ladies coffee/tea party!
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Auramine O wrote:
But I would definitely support and still hang out with attendees that would (could) bring their bundles of joy! I do on some gaming group meetups anyway and its nice to see families gaming together.

True, if someone had a bundle of baby joy with them, well, I think I could be talked into holding the little darlin' for a moment or two, or ten, or twenty. It's been quite a while since my kids were little and cuddly, it is nice to stand there and hold a little one from time to time. And them give them back when they get fussy, lol!
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A lot of the guys I met at the con had families and gaming wives, it made me wonder if some of them would come if they could get a few hours of gaming in a day.

If there was a rotation of parents, even playing games iwth older kids (5 and up). Don't have a really worked out idea, but I'm planning on being a parent in the next year, and I don't want to be missing out on ALL the good gaming--some of it has to go, I know...cry

But some of it has to go for the Mr. as well

There seems to be a bunch of 20-30 somethings, a fertile bunch...and I did see 5 or 6 pregnant gamers as well. Either BGG 2010 is going to involve some actual crying or people are going to have to miss it entirely. Boo!
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SilentPartner wrote:
A lot of the guys I met at the con had families and gaming wives, it made me wonder if some of them would come if they could get a few hours of gaming in a day.

If there was a rotation of parents, even playing games iwth older kids (5 and up). Don't have a really worked out idea, but I'm planning on being a parent in the next year, and I don't want to be missing out on ALL the good gaming--some of it has to go, I know...cry

But some of it has to go for the Mr. as well

There seems to be a bunch of 20-30 somethings, a fertile bunch...and I did see 5 or 6 pregnant gamers as well. Either BGG 2010 is going to involve some actual crying or people are going to have to miss it entirely. Boo!


I would also point out to anybody serious about this that a group of y'all could get together to pool money and *hire* help.

That is what my friends have done for Sci-fi cons in the past. It is also what we do for our gaming group when we have "family events" like all day BBQ and gaming days. We hire 3-5 babysitters, depending on number of kids and age ranges that need to be entertained.

When I was in college I was a "vacation nanny" in Orlando and often spent days in hotels taking care of kids whose parents were around but off doing adult stuff for most of the day.
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Lil Red Head wrote:

True, if someone had a bundle of baby joy with them, well, I think I could be talked into holding the little darlin' for a moment or two, or ten, or twenty. It's been quite a while since my kids were little and cuddly, it is nice to stand there and hold a little one from time to time. And them give them back when they get fussy, lol!


I'm in the same boat. My only kid is 14 and a skinny 6'3" - it would be like cuddling a very reluctant baby giraffe. He came to BGG.con when he was 12 but felt out-of-place and was sort of bored, even though he was used to boardgaming with adults. He says now that he had fun, though. (Thank goodness for the dexterity games in the lobby.) I missed him this year but it was nice to have only myself to worry about.

And on a related note I really enjoyed that little black puppy that was at the con. He's in one of the Crazy Booth photos; I'm afraid I can't remember the owner/mommy's name.
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