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This phrase may now be my least favorite trend in internet communication.

Who would say this to someone face to face?

Now, I admit, I'm a man filled with dramatic opinions, and I've never expected ANYONE to agree with me, but I take this phrase as someone effectively saying "shut up"; which, I'm gonna say, is a little rude.

Anyone have an opinion about this phrase?

My feeling is that it makes you seem like a passive aggressive weasel. Am I being overly sensitive to it?

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MWChapel wrote:
whatev.


Much preferred.
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Depends on the context, but in most cases, that would end my conversation with whoever said it.

My current most aggravating phrase: "It's a no-brainer!" A local mortgage lender uses it, and it basically means to me: "You don't need to think about this great deal, just sign here!"
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Scott Firestone IV wrote:

Oh no you di'int.


A welcome response.
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MWChapel wrote:
whatev.


Meh.
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sisteray wrote:
Who would say this to someone face to face?


I've said it to someone's face but perhaps not in a context you're thinking of. Mostly I've used it in response to a humorously long winded and/or TMI rant. Occasionally I've said it in response to something like an inadvertent but appropriately timed belch. In all cases I've said it in a humorous way in response to a humorous situation.

I'd probably not say it in a mean way unless someone started something and deserved it. That being the case the gloves are off anyway and being perceived as rude is hardly a concern.
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Duly noted.
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I'll keep that in mind.
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I've never actually heard the phrase outside of a humourous context. If someone said it to me over the internet, I'd assume they were joshing me.
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Maybe you should tell them what you really think!
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It's a fairly commonly used phrase in my family. Generally, the person it's being said to doesn't take offense. My family is a pretty opinionated bunch, and we all like to joke around with each other, so it works. In situations with people of other personality types, I can see how it might not go over as well.
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I would say it sarcastically, but I'm generally thought of as an asshole, so yeah, I see what you might be trying to tell me, maybe.
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Quote:
"Tell me what you really think."


I've said this before to someone who was being a total assmuppet and being incredibly rude. It's usually prefaced by, "Don't hold back buddy"
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It might just be me, but I don't see what the problem is with "tell me what you really think".

If someone said it to me I'd just assume that they wanted me to be honest about something, and I'd say it if I wanted someone to tell me honestly what they thought about something.

sisteray wrote:
but I take this phrase as someone effectively saying "shut up"; which, I'm gonna say, is a little rude.


I just don't see how the phrase could be taken this way. Is it used in a particular context in the States that it isn't used in down here.

Please note, I'm not trying to cause an argument, this really has me perplexed.

or am I failing to get a joke somewhere?
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If I say "tell me what you really think", I always say "don't sugarcoat it" beforehand.
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Banichi wrote:
It might just be me, but I don't see what the problem is with "tell me what you really think".

If someone said it to me I'd just assume that they wanted me to be honest about something, and I'd say it if I wanted someone to tell me honestly what they thought about something.

sisteray wrote:
but I take this phrase as someone effectively saying "shut up"; which, I'm gonna say, is a little rude.


I just don't see how the phrase could be taken this way. Is it used in a particular context in the States that it isn't used in down here.

Please note, I'm not trying to cause an argument, this really has me perplexed.

or am I failing to get a joke somewhere?


It usually comes after one writes a long body describing in detail how one feels about something.

Basically the dialog goes something like this:

OP: I feel this way.
2nd Dude: I agree.
3rd Dude: I too agree.
4th Dude: You guys are teh awesome/random vapid statement.
5th Dude: I disagree, here is why I feel differently. Example X. Example Y. Example Z.
4th Dude: Tell us what you really think.
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Ok, I think I can see where you are coming from. People could use it in a sarcastic/snide way.

Cheers.
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See, there's your problem: the 4th Dude is just a jerk. He can't help it...
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I usually only say this in response to people (online) that I generally get along with, when they make a particularly pointed statement, pulling no punches.

I usually just mean it as a joke, not really as a snide comment or anything. If it's not someone that I have talked with before, or know them (about as well as you can know them online, at least), I won't use it.

For me, it's often maybe subconsciously an attempt to lighten the mood of a potential flame-war thread


I could see myself maybe saying this to someone's face, because it would be the same situation - someone I know and get along with (probably a friend). Granted, I'd probably only say it if it was just a rant among friends (ie, I wouldn't interject into an argument not involving me).
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