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Chips Reynolds
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Will someone PLEASE tell me how to deal with the raging f*cking hormones of a pregnant woman?


I'm sick of the back and forth already and she is only 8 weeks.


One moment, happy, loving, laughing, appreciative that I do 90% of everything in our lives while she sits on the couch watching baby shows

the next, I joke or say or do one little thing that either is wrong, or just isnt fitting for the moment, etc.. and I'm practically verbally abused and hated on and a piece of shit that does nothing



I seriously have how many more months of this??


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Don't take it personally.

Buy her a fan and know that when menopause hits, she (and you) will be going through this even worse.
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Consider it your 'Training Time'.

When the kid arrives, it will be happy, sad, crying, laughing, back and forth ALL NIGHT LONG.

This is just nature's way to train the male of the species how to deal.
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Djcheddar wrote:

I seriously have how many more months of this??



Now is not the time to tell you a pregnancy is actually 10 months is it?

good luck.
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Oh wait till the baby comes. All the hormonal issues plus lack of sleep.
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It often gets better with the second trimester. I hope it does for you guys.

But yes, after the baby comes, the two of you will be trying to figure out how to care for this tiny helpless screaming thing while her hormones are still wonky, and that will add to the stress. You might consider paying for placenta encapsulation afterwards (if the idea doesn't gross her out)?
(It might help with any postpartum depression that might ensue)

Also, your description reminds me of an old Friends episode where Phoebe is pregnant.
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HeronAbroad wrote:

Also, your description reminds me of an old Friends episode where Phoebe is pregnant.


Ohhh, so that's where she is getting it from. She is an addict to Friends. No joke.
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This to shall pass. Eventually. Someday.

Seriously. It will...
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mister lunch wrote:
This to shall pass. Eventually. Someday.

Seriously. It will...


When? When I die?
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No.

It will ease up during the pregnancy. Then it comes back.

After the baby though, it starts up again, especially if she breastfeeds.

And that passes too.

What helped me and my wife was friends that we could talk to about it that had been there. You know commiserate and stuff.
And every time, "Oh, yeah, that's normal."

Hopefully she recognizes it too. Cuz that makes for easier smoothing things over... wink, wink, nudge, nudge

if not, man up, boy!
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When I was pregnant for the first time my fatigue was most noticable. Every movement I made felt as if I was pushing through molasses. Not only did I not anticipate this fatigue it went on for much longer than I thought it would. It was frustrating to say the least because, after all, I did have a life. I also had a lot of pain in my hip which only got worse until the baby came. My second pregnancy was nothing like that. I had more energy but I suffered from more naseau and dizzyness. I had no pain in my hip at all. This is to say that every pregnancy is different. The only thing pregnant women have in common is that we are/were all pregnant.
If she snipes at you it could be caused by her physical condition and her expectations for herself. She may be unhappy that she was unable to anticipate how much this pregnancy was going to impact her life.

Or it could be that you are not as in tune with her thoughts and beliefs as you thought you were. Instead of hearing you say 'I do 90% of the work around here much of the time (so you should be grateful)' what she may hear you say is 'even though you have to be 100% pregnant I expect more from you... in fact, I submit that you are lazy and are unfairly taking advantage of your condition'.

What you might try saying is something like 'I can only imagine how you feel so I want to know how I can help you. I know housework is really important to you. I want to give 100% to you and the baby - that goes without saying - but I will try to be more practical for the sake of chores around the house and I need you to help me divide my time up between everything that needs to be done. When you have time to think about it please give me some of your ideas about what's important... so on and so on.....'



Best of luck to you,
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Don't sweat it. When she gets upset just blast some Thin Lizzy and do that special dance. It'll smooth everything out.


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Pippi Flamingo wrote:
What you might try saying is something like 'I can only imagine how you feel so I want to know how I can help you. I know housework is really important to you. I want to give 100% to you and the baby - that goes without saying - but I will try to be more practical for the sake of chores around the house and I need you to help me divide my time up between everything that needs to be done. When you have time to think about it please give me some of your ideas about what's important... so on and so on.....'




What if I told you she hardly did anything different, than what she is doing now that she is pregnant?



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Djcheddar wrote:
Will someone PLEASE tell me how to deal with the raging f*cking hormones of a pregnant woman?


I'm sick of the back and forth already and she is only 8 weeks.


One moment, happy, loving, laughing, appreciative that I do 90% of everything in our lives while she sits on the couch watching baby shows

the next, I joke or say or do one little thing that either is wrong, or just isnt fitting for the moment, etc.. and I'm practically verbally abused and hated on and a piece of shit that does nothing



I seriously have how many more months of this??




Let it slide and don't act like a jerk. The first trimester is the worse with respect to this. If she's having "raging hormones" now, she's probably in for a rough time after the birth. YOU NEED TO BE SUPPORTIVE.

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I remember when TomA and I were traveling, I was feeling very very car sick. We headed through a parking lot when TomA made a screeching halt which sent my nausea to the tipping point.

What made him stop so suddenly?

"Look sweetie, it's a Utah license plate!!!" (yeah, he's geeky THAT way.)

I was furious and lit into him like never before saying things I can't remember, suddenly I was just so frustrated I burst into tears sobbing that I felt so awful and was being so mean to this sweet guy.

As I sat there sobbing, I thought how ridiculous this whole reaction was over a silly license plate and it absolutely cracked me up. I started laughing hysterically at the whole thing.

All this while he sat there frozen, mouth agape, still pointing at the Utah license plate.

Well, anyway, I guess my point is: hang in there!
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amwiles wrote:
Djcheddar wrote:
Will someone PLEASE tell me how to deal with the raging f*cking hormones of a pregnant woman?


I'm sick of the back and forth already and she is only 8 weeks.


One moment, happy, loving, laughing, appreciative that I do 90% of everything in our lives while she sits on the couch watching baby shows

the next, I joke or say or do one little thing that either is wrong, or just isnt fitting for the moment, etc.. and I'm practically verbally abused and hated on and a piece of shit that does nothing



I seriously have how many more months of this??




Let it slide and don't act like a jerk. The first trimester is the worse with respect to this. If she's having "raging hormones" now, she's probably in for a rough time after the birth. YOU NEED TO BE SUPPORTIVE.



My point that I didn't really delve into I guess, was the fact that I feel like I already am. I am 100% bending over backwards for her and trying to be the Man Above and beyond supportive.

But the one-off's each day, seem to over take and negate all of it in one fail swoop

That's where the frustration lies

But oh well, I'm not the first guy to go through this and I know it is all temporary. It's all a learning experience as well.

lesson learned- no more children after this one





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I think Moses Maimonides said it best when he wrote "suck it up, buttercup."

Anyway, she's probably just bitter that she's married to a man who gets the phrase "one fell swoop" wrong.

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Djcheddar wrote:
One moment, happy, loving, laughing, appreciative that I do 90% of everything in our lives while she sits on the couch watching baby shows

the next, I joke or say or do one little thing that either is wrong, or just isnt fitting for the moment, etc.. and I'm practically verbally abused and hated on and a piece of shit that does nothing


At least for you this is only a phase. I get this from a non-pregnant woman.

Count your blessing...
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My wife once broke down into crying babbling hysterics because a fruit store did not have any pears, or apples or something.

It was the funniest thing ever.
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